The Reflection of a Good Woman

Today is a fun day! I'm guest posting over at Y I'm Writeous about the positives of living near family. And, while I'm taking over that blog, I have Bijee from Reflections of a Good Woman on my blog today!

Bijee (a.k.a “B”) is a young woman trying to be the person that she can be. Her greatest blessing is her friends and family, which consists of her husband and two children. She doesn’t take lightly to being a good wife, mother, daughter, and friend. The ultimate goal is to be a role model to her children and a good woman to her longtime best friend and husband. She strives to show her daughter what a good woman looks like and to model what her son should be looking for when the time comes. This attitude and approach is outlined and guided by Titus 2 and Proverbs 31. You can find her at The Reflections of a Good Woman where she blogs about Faith, Family, Friendship and balancing life.

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I was recently binge watching episodes of Desperate Housewives. (don't judge me, I have always loved that show). In this particular episode Eady states "The super mom is always the first to snap" and it got me to thinking that Eady might possibly be on to something. If you ever visit me over in my corner of the interwebs, you know I struggle with balancing life, but specifically parenting, and all the demands of my children. So when I heard her say that I perked up like my dog does when she hears her food hit the bowl. I sometimes feel like a visit to a special facility and a straight jacket might be in my near future dealing with my kids at times, and I often want to just hide in a closet for a break. I work hard both at work and at home and sometimes it just gets to be a little too much. As I sat and thought about what Eady said, I figured maybe I'm NOT doing it all wrong, as I often feel like I am, after all. I often times find myself wishing I had done things differently, more perfectly and that maybe my kids would enjoy it more, talk to me more, think I'm cool, etc. But I honestly am just not that girl. You know, the super mom type with the perfect marriage and the perfect kids, that does all the perfect activities, and takes all the perfect pictures, and just seems to have a cape that would never come in my size. I gave up on my super woman cape a long time ago...

 

I cook dinner daily, but its not always the most healthy and it's close to a set time, but not really. I mean we don't eat read meat, and 3.5 times out of 5 I have a vegetable on the plate, with the only exception being when I make something like pizza, or pasta, etc. (I don't cook on Fridays and Saturdays, those are my off days) My oldest who is 11 has chores. All you perfect moms out there, please let go of your pearls...lol. I can't and don't try to keep this house together by myself. I use to, but when we acquired more square footage (to accommodate the little beings) I realized the cape I was wearing had a hole in it and I was falling short. I am doing good if I clean up my youngest child's toys out of the floor in the family room once a week. He comes right behind me and pulls them all out pretty much putting them all in the same spots they previously resided in anyway. I no longer wish to create my own insanity. I don't do laundry, I just SUCK at it! I know by now you are thinking what kind of woman is she??? My hubby took over that chore very early on in our our relationship. I will get them in the washing machine but anything beyond that is a struggle for me. I hate hanging wet clothes and I especially hate folding clean and dry clothes. So if left to me, I would be rewashing loads from them getting sour from being left in the washing machine wet and we would be digging clean clothes out of baskets for a whole week until I needed them to do the laundry the next week. I absolutely refuse to be a stay at home mom. Not that I think it is beneath me, cause trust me when i say i think every woman who does it should get paid way more than i do to go to work every day, cause that is a J-O-B!!! But I personally love going to work, and seeing as how i racked up a nice bit of debt obtaining those degrees and certificates I acquired, i think its only fair i help contribute to the household and paying them off. I could go on and on about the things i don't do, that I often see women obsessing over in order to be their version of the "perfect mom". But I now realize I am not and will not be a perfect mom and that is fine with me.

My prayer is that my kids still "rise up and call me blessed" (Proverbs 31:28), and I think that they do in their own little way, so I am good with that. As one of my Facebook friends said, "the goal is to raise up kids who don't need counseling because of my parenting", and if I can achieve that my friends, then I am golden. So every day I wake up and I do my best, and love them the best I know how, and even though I cant guarantee that I wont snap, I am hoping it is less likely. But I won't have a darn cape on trying to be superwoman if I do, I'll tell you that!

how about you, do you ever feel like you need to retire your cape? If you are a perfectionist in parenting do you think you could chill in an effort to just enjoy it more?

Be blessed.